Monday, 7 April 2014


Leadership in the Home

“Even the Son of Man came not to be served but to be a servant—to offer His life as a ransom for others.” Mark 10:45

There are many ways to display leadership in a home.   However, the mere suggestion that the husband should be the leader has become counter-cultural.  Most often TV depicts husbands as clueless buffoons.  The momentum to an egalitarian society is good in some ways and not so good in others.

The Bible tells husbands to be servant leader, protector and provider for his family.  He is to be the head of the home just as Christ is the head of the church.  When culture determines that the Biblical model needs to be adjusted to suit what mankind believes is more current we are on a very slippery slope.

Obviously if the husband is a domineering jerk (a Biblical term) he is not leading as the Bible instructs.

Andy Stanley has a novel idea – why not emulate the leadership style of Jesus.  This approach could apply to men and women.  He suggests asking one simple question, “How can I help you today?”  Ask your wife, ask your kids, ask your husband, ask your co-workers – well you get the idea. 

Much of the problem gets back to our own self-centeredness.  We want control, we want what is best for us, we want to be happy, fulfilled and nourished.  Even the apostles didn’t get it as Jesus was nearing the end of His life.   In Mark chapter ten Jesus just concludes telling his apostles that the Jews will condemn Him to die.  He will be handed over to the gentiles who will mock him, spit on him, flog him and kill him.  The very next discourse in Mark is between Jesus, John and James who are basically ignoring what Jesus has just shared and what to know if they can be privileged to sit on the right and left of Jesus when He inherits His throne.  Talk about self-centered.  The other apostles were outraged, not because John and James appeared to lack compassion, they were jealous because they too wanted a position of honor in the Kingdom that was to come.

The lesson is obvious, if we want people to relate to us, to hear our testimony, to see what it truly means to have a Christian marriage we need to humble ourselves and be willing to help one another.

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