Friday, 21 March 2014

My Threshold and God’s

C.S. Lewis
“It is no good passing this over with some vague, general admission such as "Of course, I know I have my faults." It is important to realize that there is some really fatal flaw in you: something which gives others the same feeling of despair which their flaws give you.” C.S. Lewis

This blog may sound like a “stream of consciousness” (a narrative device used in literature "to depict the multitudinous thoughts and feelings which pass through the mind).  Of course that could be said of most of my blogs.  In case you miss the point, this one is on forgiveness.

Over the years what I considered as being noble, i.e. overlooking someone’s behavior, telling myself that I was a forgiving person was a lie.   I came to realize that it was cowardice on my part.  I didn’t overlook their behavior, I avoided confronting it.  This is a flaw that prevents growth on my part and possibly jeopardizes the relationship with the offending party.

Which brings me to question “what is my threshold?”  At what point is someone’s behavior, or character flaw important enough to me and my future relationship with that person to confront them?  For a non-confrontational person to take another person on, the infraction must be important and the specific relationship equally important.

Then I came across an excerpt from a book or article by C.S. Lewis entitled “the Trouble with “X”.  The quote above is extracted from that text.  This article points to my need to focus on my flaws and not my brothers.  Regardless how grievous my brother’s behavior may be it doesn’t compare to how grievous my behavior is to God.

The bottom line seems to be that until I recognize that my sin is so much deeper than that of my brother, I’m will be unwilling to forgive him or her.  It is only when I see my flaws as God sees them that I realize how short of the mark I fall, that God’s Threshold for my sin is limitless.

This is a little like taking the plank out of my own eye before I get too concerned with the spec in yours.

So where on earth am I going with all this rhetoric?  All too often when a couple comes to me for counseling all they can remember are the hurts and wounds that have been inflicted over time. Each feels like a victim.  They either can’t forgive, won’t forgive, or pay lip service to forgiving when they have not.  What is lacking is a true understanding of how despicable our sins are to a holy God.  Until we can recognize that He paid an enormous price to forgive my sins which are far greater than those committed against me, I will have a hardened heart.

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