Friday, 6 December 2013

Let Your Child Out

I find that the hectic pace of life seems to keep “my child” locked in his room.  Before you contact the police and report a case of child abuse let me clarify that statement.  When I speak of “my child” I’m not talking about one of my grown children, I’m talking about the little child that still resides in me.  And frankly sometimes it is a case of neglect more than abuse.

I often suspect that most of the couples I work with suffer from the same malady.  Many of them have not been on a literal date night in years.  More importantly many of them haven’t been spontaneous or silly since Ronald Reagan was President.  Humor is almost non-existent.  Not surprisingly their intimacy is more perfunctory than pleasurable, not to mention infrequent.

There are numerous studies that would indicate the importance of laughter, humor and allowing your “adult child” out to play.

There is a good chance that when you dated you had a lot more fun.  It might have been as unimaginative as getting two scoops of double chocolate chunk ice cream on a sugar cone or as silly as laying on the ground in the winter and making snow angels.  When was the last time you skipped?  Have you flown a kite lately or spontaneously packed a lunch and gone on a picnic?  Have you and your spouse gone on a scavenger hunt recently? 

When was the last time you laughed so hard that tears rolled down your face?  Can you laugh at yourself?  Do you and your spouse have some “inside” jokes that only the two of you understand, that brings a smile to your face whenever they are triggered?

The frantic pace of life combined with the natural stressors of everyday life can suck the joy out of even the most optimistic of people.  Matthew 6:34 tells us “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.  Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.”
As a child of the living Savior we have much to be thankful for.  While each day has its challenges make it a point to find some joy.  Make it a point to laugh, to giggle, to do something that you haven’t done for years, that used to bring you pleasure.

A couple that plays together stays together.  I doubt that this corny saying is original with me but I’ll bet there is much wisdom and truth in it. 

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