Wednesday, 13 November 2013

Truth and Grace

Andy Stanley
This blog was inspired by a message delivered by Andy Stanley entitled “Gracie and Truthie”.  Like most of Andy’s messages it was clear and convicting.  There is a tension that exists in the gospels that is hard to bridge.  On the one hand we are called to love one another as Christ loved us that is how people will know that we are His disciples. (John 13:34-35).  The awesomeness of His incomprehensible mercy and grace define who He was in human flesh.  On the other hand He was quick to call sin, sin. The woman at the well, the woman caught in adultery, and the rich young ruler were confronted by their sin and at the same time offered grace.

At the macro level this is the same God who causes or allows some horrific tragedies while at the same time offering even the worst among us mercy and grace.  For the true seeker who is on a genuine spiritual journey this tension between what appears to be just and unjust and loving and convicting is a difficult stream to traverse.  It is the tension that we must live with even though many of us tend to favor one or the other. Some of us are all about truth.  We are quick to notice the sins of others and delight in making their sins known to them.  Others of us err on the side of grace, offering second chance after second chance, not wanting to offend.

I subscribe as husbands and wives we are called to be dispensers of truth and grace and to the extent that we can effectively do so our marriages will be blessed.  Ephesians 4:15 tells us that we are to “speak the truth in love.”  Ephesians 4:29 says, “Don’t let even one rotten word seep out of your mouths. Instead, offer only fresh words that build others up when they need it most. That way your good words will communicate grace to those who hear them.” (The Voice Translation)

So to love one another the way that Christ first loved us requires that we speak the truth in love to one another in such a way that it will benefit the hearer.  I suspect that most of us do not have the communication skills necessary to pull this off.  We are either brutal in our delivery of the truth which comes across as disrespectful to husbands, he feels like a home improvement project.  On the other hand if the wife constantly extends grace to her husband and attempts to overlook serious character flaws, she is not being the “helper” that God designed her to be.

Husband how can you demonstrate to your wife that you love her as much as you love yourself while speaking truth that will help her to be more “radiant, and without stain or wrinkle or blemish”?

1 comment:

  1. Great post! I had listened to this message a few months ago, and like you said, clear and convicting. I agree that the balance between truth and grace is one that only Jesus perfected, and we all continue to wrestle with this balance. I find in different relationships and/or conversations I have to err on the side of grace, but almost always that is the case because I'm thinking to myself "am I making a point to this person, or a difference." (taken from another Andy Stanley message)

    As I'm sure you know, "When Gracie met Truthy" is a part of a larger series titled "Christian" which is excellent, in my opinion.


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