Monday, 28 October 2013

Communication – A Man’s Perspective

The more you talk, the more likely you will cross the line and say the wrong thing;
but if you are wise, you’ll speak less and with restraint
.  Proverbs 10:19 The Voice

As a guy you gotta love Proverbs 10:19, particularly as it appears in The Voice translation of the Bible.  There used to be a phrase that I have not heard recently, i.e. “He is a man of few words”.  The reality is that most men are of few words.  I realize this statement opens the door for some very sarcastic quips such as “he is of few words because he has nothing of value to say” or “he is of few words because that is all that comes to his mind.”  My guess is that you have already come up with something more droll.  I’d love to have you share your thoughts in the comments section.
It is true that when asked how his day was the typical husband answers, “fine”.   That is a complete sentence.

As a general rule men do not relate emotionally, particularly through words.  Men started texting before it was fashionable.  That is their e-mails consisted of very few, poorly spelled words that conveyed enough to the recipient to know exactly what he was trying to express.
I do find it ironic that this same man who tends to communicate in single syllable grunts once married was once able to spend hours on the phone with the woman he was pursuing or to engage in scintillating conversation (well that may be a stretch) when out on a date.

I have come to the conclusion that we men are of few words because we are of few interests.  I know of a number of guys who could wax eloquently about last Sunday’s football game (that’s soccer or rugby to the rest of the world) including a character assassination of the coach; many men could go on a diatribe about Obamacare, (the soon to be introduced answer to healthcare problems in the America) even though they do not have a clue as to the ultimate impact; and most could voice an uneducated assessment of the political party that would be in opposition to their own self-interest.
So call us shallow, but not of few words.

It is my understanding that many women relate on an emotional level through the use of words.  Now ladies you know the secret to getting your man to talk, i.e. find out the one or two topics your man is passionate about and just ask him a question.  Now if you are hoping that in return he will ask you a question, i.e. “how was your day”, you may have set your expectations too high.

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