Friday, 13 September 2013

Yet Another Insight

Who in the world do you think you are to second-guess God? Do you for one moment suppose any of us knows enough to call God into question? Romans 9:20   The Message

For some reason the Lord has been working me over big time in recent weeks.  By that I mean He is convicting me of my sinfulness more than usual.  It is as if everything I read alerts me to one more area of my life in which I am in need of repentance.  So I wasn’t particularly surprised when our morning devotional (Jesus Calling) decided to pile on the guilt.  It said in part:

Give your mind a break from its habitual judging.  You form judgments about this situation, that situation, this person, that person, yourself, even the weather – as if judging were your main function in life.

If judging were my main function in life I would be quite good at it.  I hold what I believe to be correct Christian values, many of which I learned from a Jewish person who was agnostic.  Furthermore I feel that it is my duty to judge others as if they embraced the same values.  I am constantly interpreting events, situations and people’s motives through my filter of values and then pronounce judgment.  To be perfectly blunt, as the verse above says, “I am second guessing God.”

Enough about me, even though I am one of my favorite topics.  Do you or your spouse share my propensity for judging?  If so, you may be prone to judge one another.  That will lead you down a long spiral staircase leading to unhappiness. 

God is the only one who has the right to judge.  In Matthew 7:1 we are told “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.”  If I as a husband I judge my wife she will not feel loved, cherished and adored.  If my wife insists on imposing her values and expectations on me I will not feel respected.

If the Creator who devised the institution of marriage determined that one of the most important things a husband can do is to make his wife feel cherished and loved and one of the most important things a wife can do is to defer to, hold high and respect her husband then I would suspect those attitudes / behaviors are essential to a good marriage.

Ideally I can learn to quit being God and leave judgment up to Him; I can quit imposing my values on those who never accepted my values to begin with; and I can stop expecting my wife to be anyone other than the incredible person God has made her to be.

 

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