Monday, 9 September 2013

Delicate Balance

21 you, then, who teach others, do you not teach yourself? Romans 2:21(a)

There are a number of Bible verses that perplex or confound me.  (Translated I don’t understand them or I do understand them but don’t like what they say)  Such is the case with Ephesians 5:25-27 which says:

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

So if I understand this correctly not only am I to love my wife to the depths we were loved by Jesus “But” (I hate buts) I am to help her to become more like Jesus such that she is becoming more radiant, more holy, and without a blemish.  Oh, is that all?

I’m personally doing a lousy job becoming more holy – forget radiant and unblemished.  How presumptuous of me to think I can help my wife develop spiritually.  News flash – God was well aware of my deficiencies (and yours) when He gave me this assignment.

My choices seem to be (a) to ignore this verse, assuming I must be misinterpreting it;
(b) march in and hand my wife a list of areas where I perceive she could grow spiritually; or (c) take the coward’s way out.

Ignoring God is never a good choice.   Running to my wife with a list would be almost as stupid.  Thus, I would opt for the coward’s way out.

My plan is to go to my wife, tell her how much I love her, read the passage to her, and then ask her how she thinks I can best help her to become more radiant and more like Jesus.  She might say that she does not know and asks me my opinion.  Unless I’m feeling particularly spiritual I will not give her my opinion.  For I know that if I were foolish enough to answer her things could get ugly.  Even in what I consider an outstanding marriage, answering that question would be akin to answering the question “does this dress make me look fat?”

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