Friday, 9 August 2013

Values Based Leadership – Part II

This will probably only make sense if you read Part I, but even then I’m not sure it will.  In general the concept of Values Based Leadership assumes that we all have certain values that we feel particularly passionate about.  Your values may be social justice, or tolerance, or intimacy, or accomplishing something, or honesty or hard work, etc.  The theory is that you will be best motivated when one or more of your values are met. 

For example let’s assume that your highest held value is honoring God in whatever you do.  That value is at the top of your Top Five Values list.  Let’s further assume that accomplishing something important is number five on your list.  Though it is at the bottom of your top five list, as a value it is still critically important to you.  In fact, so important that if you were offered an opportunity to do something that honored God but you felt was an inconsequential task you would most likely decline the opportunity. So the least important of your top five values will ultimately determine whether you are motivated by the opportunity.  If your number five value is either satisfied or not a relevant consideration then your number four value would become the deciding factor, etc.  Often high capacity men stay on the side lines at church because the opportunities to serve that are presented to them don’t satisfy the lowest relevant value.

Whether you are motivated or not motivated to do a particular task or to make a particular commitment is predicated on whether or not your values are fulfilled, beginning with the least important on your list of top values.

By knowing what your husband/wife truly values you can save a lot of needless emotional angst by making sure that as you propose something you are taking into account their values and yours.  If frugality is one of your values and the only way to meet your spouse’s value criteria is to spend far more money than you are comfortable spending then you will be most unhappy.  As a Christian couple this will necessitate a self examination to be sure money has not become an idol to you given your strong desire to save and that possessions have not become an idol for your spouse given their propensity to spend.
 
This concept can also apply to identifying negative behaviors and realizing that some deeply held belief is driving certain feelings which are manifesting themselves in your “inappropriate” behavior.  The heart is at the heart of our values and beliefs.  Only the Holy Spirit can change our hearts.  By identifying the belief or value that is causing your misguided behavior you can repent and ask God to intervene

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