Monday, 26 August 2013

Is Your Marriage an Open Letter or a Closed Book?

You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone. 2Cor. 3:2

The above quote was written by the Apostle Paul to the believers in Corinth but I think it has a great application to us today and in particular to married couples who profess to be Christian.  Paul’s letter was to be read to all the congregants.  Paul was saying that the conduct of the people he was writing to would become the testimony by which they would attract or negatively influence non-believers.

That should be the test of our marriages.  Do we conduct ourselves in such a way that those who see us, including our children, would conclude that we have something special, something to offer that is better than what the world is offering.

In Ephesians 5:25 husbands are called to love their wives just as Christ loves His bride the Church.  We as husbands are to emulate His example.  Our marriages are to be a reflection of Christ’s relationship to the Church.  As husbands we should have a deep abiding love for our wives that permeates everything we do.  So much so that those who know us well or just observe us from afar recognize that there is something very special about our relationship.

On the other hand if our marriage is a closed book it means that we have learned all we are going to learn and we have stopped growing.  The cover on the book is closed and we see no benefit in reading anything else.  This too will be evident particularly by those who know us well.  We may put on our Sunday morning persona but as we all know you cannot always tell a book by its cover.

The open letter on the other hand is available for comment, critique and questioning.   The authors are vulnerable because their lives are open to scrutiny.  They conduct themselves in such a way that their children never feel insecure.  Affection is visibly displayed; laughter occurs often; disagreements are resolved calmly in a way that glorifies the Father and it is apparent to every member of the household that God is an integral part of how decisions are made.  Prayer is more than just a meal time ritual and the parent’s behavior Monday through Saturday is no different than it is on Sunday morning.


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