Wednesday, 17 July 2013


An interesting blog was published by Steve Timmis on the Biblical Counseling Coalition blog site.  The “I” in IPF stands for identity.  I remember being embarrassed in a beginning psychology class.   I was obviously not well prepared prior to coming to class.  The professor called on me and said “who are you?”  To which I responded by giving my name.  Wrong!  There is nothing like being an introvert who has just been embarrassed in front of the entire freshman psych class.  Apparently the professor made the assumption that I had read the chapter for the day and would have known to answer her question by giving my bio, not my name.

In paragraph one I identified myself as a freshman who was unprepared, klutzy, and an introvert, which by the way would have been a very acceptable answer to her question, but I digress.  Here’s Mr. Timmis’ point.  As a believer my identity is “in Christ”.  He goes on to say that this identity trumps and defines all other identities.  Thus I can only be the husband God wants me to be when I identify myself as someone united with Christ.

The “P” stands for purpose.  As someone who is in Christ, my purpose is to glorify God. (1Corinthians 10:31)  Everything I do and say should be governed by my desire to bring honor to the King of Kings.

The “F” stands for function.  My function is to act in a way that would glorify God because I am in Christ and He in me.

1Corinthians 3:16 says, “don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?”  What I don’t think Mr. Timmis mentioned is that I am only able to function in a Christ-like manner because the Holy Spirit is indwelling me.  This presumes that I have been born again.

Jesus said, “A new command I give you.  Love one another.  As I have loved you so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.”  John 13:34-35

So husbands and wives you are to love one another just as Christ has loved you.  You are to do so because your identity is in Christ.  Your identity is not in who you married, what school you may or may not have graduated from, or your pedigree growing up.  Your purpose is to put God’s love on display to everyone you meet for your function in life is to be His ambassador.  Ideally this makes you so attractive that other couples who do not have a personal relationship with Christ desire what they see in you.


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