Wednesday, 5 June 2013

A Suitable Helper

In Genesis we learn that God determined that it was not good for man to be alone, i.e. man needed to share his life with someone of his own species.  Therefore God provided a suitable helper - Ezer kenegdo in Hebrew.  This is not translated to mean a person who was to be subservient to the man.  This Hebrew phrase indicated that the helper was one who was to provide support for what was lacking in the one who needed the help, i.e. make up for his deficiencies.

I think we can infer several things from what we learn in the early part of Genesis.  First of all one would think that hanging out with God all day would be sufficient companionship for anyone, particularly since man was created in God’s image.  Yet God understood that Adam needed someone like himself if for no other reason than man only had some of the attributes of God and that some of the qualities missing in man could best be found in the woman.  Together the man and woman more closely represent the Godhead.

Marriage is to be a reflection of the Godhead.  In the Godhead we find incredible intimacy, unity, and oneness.  We also find diversity: consider the different roles, yet no member of the Trinity is a less valuable member.  Men and women were created to be image bearers of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords, the Creator of the Universe, and as such husbands and wives are to reflect intimacy, unity and oneness.

By now you may be saying “thanks for the lesson in Hebrew and how does this insight apply to our marriage?”

First, and most importantly, when other people see you as a couple they should see a facsimile of God on earth.  Your marriage should bring praise, honor and glory to Him.  Scary huh?  Marriage is the closest relationship on this planet to what is represented by the Trinity.

Second based on their birth order, i.e. Adam first, God has assigned the duty to the man to be the servant leader, protector and provider for his family.  Notice God didn’t get into the minutiae of who was to take out the garbage and cut the grass.

Greek Alphabet
Third the woman is not only equal to the man but was created to make up for some of his deficiencies.  She is a “suitable helper”.  Notice God didn’t suggest that the man should be the wife’s “self-improvement project”, she is to assist him, encourage him, support him, etc.  They are to act as a unit, as one, with each possessing a unique set of attributes, qualities and characteristics.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well
.  Psalm 139:14


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