Friday, 10 May 2013

Borrowed Wisdom - Part I

Borrowed has a more pleasing connotation that “stolen from” or plagiarized.  Apparently the original source of the inspiration for this two part series may be Lisa Johnson of Proverbs 31 Ministries.  Just to be clear Lisa you are free to use anything I publish. Her “7 Days of Marriage Wisdom” prompted the following digressions:

Day 1 Be the Person

Be the person you’d like to be married to.  Be the person you pretended to be when you were dating.  Be the person you’d like your son and/or daughter to marry.  Be the person that God designed you to be.

Day 2 Nobody is Perfect

The original version was written specifically to wives since Lisa quoted Proverbs 31:11 which says in part “The heart of her husband trusts in her…”  In other words don’t let the world find out about your spouse’s imperfections via you.  This holds equally true for men. I suspect more than one affair has started by a man bad mouthing his wife in front of a female co-worker.  We are all sinners.  If we put half as much thought into how we can improve our marriages as we do thinking about difficult they have become we’d be way better off.

Day 3 Give the Best of You

Proverbs 3:9 tells us to honor the Lord with our wealth, with the first fruits of all our crops.  Other places in the Old Testament we are told that the followers of God were to sacrifice animals without blemish, i.e. spotless.   In other words give Him our best.  Why not do the same for our spouse.  Give him/her your best mood; your best thoughts; your best attitude; etc. “Don’t always bring them what’s left of you after the world has drained you.”

Day 4 Be Intentional

When you wake up each morning give some thought to how you might do something special for your spouse this very day.  Write a love note, make coffee, take him/her breakfast in bed, take out the trash without being reminded (hey this could be a big deal for some), open a car door, empty the dishwasher, buy her a rose, watch his sporting event and pretend to be interested, etc.

Andy Stanley tells us that one of the best ways to stay in love is to treat love as though it were a verb.  It is an action word – put feet to your love and see if it doesn’t make a difference.

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