Monday, 22 April 2013

Forgiveness of Sexual Sin

So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Colossians 3:12—13 (NASB)

Julie Ganschow
I am becoming increasingly aware of the devastating effects of pornography in particular and the endemic nature of this addiction that is affecting millions.  The following is an excerpt from the Biblical Coalition Counseling blog.  It was written by Julie Ganschow.  I particularly wanted the perspective of a woman on this topic because women are most often the victims of infidelity and/or pornography but the landscape is changing.  Julie writes:
I have often heard it said, “I can forgive anything except adultery.” There is nothing quite as difficult as forgiving intentional sin, so when a wife is asked to consider forgiving sexual sin the challenge factor goes up astronomically.

Adultery and other kinds of physical sexual sin violate the most closely held tenants of marriage and are among the hardest to forgive. For a woman to deal biblically with the fallout of the sexual sin in which her husband has been involved, she will have to understand what it means to forgive him biblically and how to do so.
Sexual sin is the unforgivable sin in marriage in the minds of many people; however, is that what the Bible teaches?
The Bible teaches us that the greatest need we all have is to be forgiven for our sin. Without the forgiveness of sin we are all destined for hell and eternal damnation (Romans 6:23). You don’t have to be a Bible scholar to figure out that if God forgives us, He has the expectation that we will forgive each other on the basis of the forgiveness we’ve received.
Unfortunately there is usually much that needs to be forgiven.  Obviously the sinful act itself requires an incredible amount of forgiveness.   There is also the lying and deceit that must accompany such behavior.  And lastly and as important is the shame that some wives feel as though as though in some way they were responsible for their husband’s behavior when they are not.

First a man sins by choice.  What is important for the wife to understand is that God made men “visual” by nature.  So as the book title implies it is Every Man’s Battle.  Today even the most faithful of men are confronted everywhere they go with unhealthy images.

Lastly it is important to understand that pornography is as addictive as cocaine and it is not unusual that a boy has been introduced to inappropriate images by age eleven.

We are in a war!


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