Wednesday, 3 April 2013

Bible Darts

Do you know what a Bible dart is?  A Bible dart is when someone throws out a verse of Scripture in an attempt to admonish or teach.  Sometimes such a dart is meant to provide comfort but it rarely does.

Such an example is found in marriage all too often.  It occurs when a husband or wife take a verse out of context and quote it to their spouse in an effort to control their mate.  Pssst – “Ephesians 5:22 says ‘wives submit to your husbands.’”  Pssst – “Oh yeah, well 1Peter 3:7 says ‘husbands be considerate of your wives and treat them with respect.’”  

A Bible dart is not very helpful.  Rather than achieving a change of behavior it generally produces anger and/or defensiveness.  “Who are you to quote the Bible to me?”

Ephesians 5:22 is often misused by husbands who want to control and domineer.  To be fair we should start with Ephesians 1:1 through Ephesians 6:24 but I’ll settle for Ephesians 5:21 through 5:33 to make the point.

Verse 5:21 says that as brothers and sisters in Christ we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  This verse alone suggests that neither person is in a dominant position over the other. If this isn’t enough then I would suggest that it is only fair that the husband obeys the  commands to love his wife as much as Christ has demonstrated His love for his bride the church (5:25) and to love his wife as much as he loves himself.  Checkmate.

The overriding theme of Scripture is love.  God is love and with His grace and the help of His Spirit we are capable of loving others.  Bible darts are often meant to inflict guilt and pain even if only at the subconscious level.

Perhaps before we are tempted to pick up a Bible dart we should remember the verse that instructs us to pick up the first stone provided we are without sin.

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