Thursday, 14 March 2013

Turning Life Inside OUt and Upside Down - Part II

21 So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22 For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; 23 but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. 24 What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? 25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!

So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature[a] a slave to the law of sin.  Romans 7:21-25

As with Part I this blog is based on the book Relationships – a mess worth making by Paul Tripp.  As is his style Tripp never lets up in driving home the point that at the heart of most of our problems is our heart. (forgive the play on words).  When the holiness of God is not your personal standard of what is good, true, and right, you will always set yourself up as that standard.”

The book of John, chapter 13, verses 34-35 says, “A new command I give you, love one another.  As I have loved you so you must love one another.  By this all men will know that you are my disciples.” God’s standard is to love as He loves us.

Unfortunately Tripp is quick to point out the “six S’s’ that tend to get in the way of accepting God’s standards as our own.

1.    Self-sufficiency – we reject God, believing we do not need Him, we are not dependent on Him.

2.    Self-righteous – we either accept God’s standards by which to live our lives or our own, there is nothing in between.  We become highly critical of others and have an inflated view of ourselves.

3.    Self-satisfaction – when we believe that we can find satisfaction and fulfillment outside of God then people in our lives become a means to achieving our happiness or an obstacle preventing our happiness.

4.    Self-taught – when we become our own source for truth and wisdom we no longer have a teachable spirit, nor are we humble.  We believe we have nothing to learn from others.

5.    Self-rule – either God rules our lives or we do.  When we rule our lives other people become our subjects.  We attempt to control others lives or we criticize them in an attempt to get our “needs” met.

6.    Self-centeredness – we will always worship something because God designed us to be worshippers.  We will either worship the Creator or the creation.

If or when we are struggling in our relationship with our spouse it is very likely that we have fallen victim to one or more of the six S’s. 

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