Tuesday, 26 February 2013

The "S" Word

Paul Tripp
Paul Tripp, noted author and lecturer suggests that, “sin causes us to shrink our lives to the size of our lives.”  He goes on to say that sin causes us to focus away from God and onto ourselves.  Sin causes us to shrink our lives down to the size of our wants, our needs, our plans, our purposes and our desires.  The selfishness of sin dehumanizes the people in our lives.  Rather than being objects of affection they become vehicles to help us get what we want or obstacles that get in the way of what we want.

It’s at this point that we would like to say “lighten up” Paul, but we realize that there is more than a thread of truth in what he is saying.  It is sad to say and embarrassing to admit but I think of myself more often than I think of God – and by the way so do you.

I’d like to think that my needs, desires, plans, purposes and desires don’t dominate much of my thinking, I’d like to but I can’t.  Just this morning I became obsessed with something that challenged my plans, purposes and desires.  It was an innocent enough e-mail, just informing me of the agenda for an upcoming meeting.  I immediately went into defensive mode, I felt slighted and upset.  I tried to tell myself to get a grip.  How pathetic.

If it is true that we tend to shrink the size of our lives down to our wants, desires, etc. what does that suggest about how we have most likely treated our spouse?  Have we made them feel as though they were a means to our end, a vehicle to get what we want, or an obstacle that cramps our style and that they are in the way of me achieving what I desire?

IF Tripp is right, and he usually is, the answer to the above question is probably a resounding yes!  For it is highly unlikely that I would treat others around me as an object to get what I want but not the person who is closest to me, the one who can better serve me than anyone else.

Ask your husband /wife whether or not there are times when they feel you are using them to get what you want.  This might be one of the most important conversations that you will ever have.

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