Wednesday, 2 January 2013

I Need to be Committed - Part II

In Part I I shared with you that Paul Tripp visited our church and laid out five essential principles that a grace filled, evangelical church must be committed to.  As I wrote them down I couldn’t help but think the principles are also ones that are essential for a marriage that would glorify God.  See Part I for principles one through three – (1) have a commitment to patterns of confession and forgiveness; (2) have a commitment to growth and change; and (3) have a commitment to Biblical communication.

 Principle #4 – Have a commitment to a relationship of love

Paul Tripp defined love as “ a willing self sacrifice for the good of another that does not demand reciprocation or that the person being loved is deserving.”  Since self-centeredness is the single biggest problem in most marriages the notion that I must willingly sacrifice anything for the good of my wife is a huge commitment.  Yes that means that if I am watching the fourth quarter of a playoff game involving my favorite sports team and my wife wants to go for a walk just then I would turn off the set and willingly go for a walk.  Furthermore I would not expect her to do something for me in return, nor does it mean that she has done anything to incline me toward being other-centered.  That is sacrificial love. IJohn 4:7-8, 11 says, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love… Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.”  There is a direct correlation between our ability to love another human being and our relationship with God.

Principle #5 - Have a commitment to representative authority

Paul Tripp
As Christians our ultimate authority is God.  We, on earth, are His ambassadors, i.e. we represent Him on earth.  We are to make His authority visible.  This is particularly important for those of you with children because as parents you can make God visible.  As husbands we are called to be servant leaders, protectors and providers.  Wives are called to submit but I contend that she will have no trouble submitting to a husband who is truly God’s ambassador. In a God glorifying marriage there is rarely a time when the husband has to make the final call and when he does the wife is assured that her husband has considered her needs, prayed to God, been in the Word and sought Godly counsel.

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