Monday, 3 December 2012

Win - Win

25 “.... so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.  1Corinthians 12:25-6

Gary Smalley
In an article co-authored by Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham entitled “Win-Win” they emphasize the importance of considering each other as equally important in the quest for a fulfilling marriage, one that brings glory to God.  They offered the following analogy to drive their point home:

Imagine what would happen if your body tried to function according  to the rules of a win-lose system.  Suppose your heart and your kidneys got into a heated debate about which one most needed a steady blood supply, winner take all.

“Hey, I pump blood through the whole body”, declares the heart. “Without me, every organ dies – including you.”That my be,” retorts the kidneys, “but if the blood doesn’t go through me, all you accomplish with your incessant pumping is to poison the entire system. And then guess who dies?

What affects on part of the body often affects another and so it is with a husband and wife.  “The heart cannot win at the expense of the kidneys any more than the kidneys can win at the expense of the heart.”

 When God provided Adam with a “helper”, He was providing Adam with someone who could make up for some of his deficiencies much like Adam could augment that which Eve brought into the relationship.

In 1Peter 5:5-6 the Apostle Paul encourages the members of the body to “… clothe ourselves with humility toward one another, because, God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble. Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.”

When a husband and wife take advantage of the skills, talents, abilities and perspectives that each brings to the marriage they have the potential to accomplish much. 

Sometimes as couples we focus on the weaknesses of one another instead of the strengths.  Make a list today of all your partner’s strengths that supplement, augment or makes up for your deficiencies.

This becomes even more important when you are one of God’s more “mature” children. “Kathleen have you seen my car keys?”


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