Friday, 30 November 2012

There Are No Ordinary Moments in Marriage

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. 9 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.  1John 4:7-12  ESV

In chapter one of Marriage Matters Winston Smith makes two key points.

1.    We are prone to handle the ordinary moments of marriage on our own as if God were uninterested in the things that trouble us.

A quick glance at 1John 4:7-12 should dispel any notion that God is disinterested in anything that happens to one of His children.  Matthew 10:39 says “Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground outside your Father’s care.”  Does that sound like a God that is disinterested in you.  We are told in Acts 17:28 that “…in him we live and move and have our being.”  Every breath of every day comes from Him.  Hopefully you are convinced that it is not God who decides to abdicate the mundane, monotonous and the messy.  We choose to exclude Him.

2.    God is love, and when we find it hard to love, we need Him all the more. A lack of love means we should not just look more closely at our marriage, but at ourselves and God.  If we have any hope of having more love in our marriage, it’s going to mean having more of God in our marriage.

 Oooouch!  The implication here is that if we are not “feeling” particularly loving we best look at our relationship with God.  If God is love and God is living in us then His love should be flowing through us.

Don’t you just hate it when these Christian authors begin to get up close and personal?  The good news is that God does care about your marriage.  He does love you and He very much wants to help.  Invite Him in to the ordinary moments of your marriage.


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