Friday, 23 November 2012

Haunted By Your Past

Nicolas Ellen
It seems that I have recently written on the topic of being deeply hurt by past life events, but then I figured it will probably take more than one blog to heal you.  In a blog by Nicolas Ellen entitled “4 Wisdom Principles for Dealing with Your Past” I found some advice that is worthy to pass on.

Principle # 1: Seek to Overcome Past Desires in the Present (Numbers 11:1-6)
You must begin to adjust your desires to fit your situation. Accept that God may not allow you to have what you want right now at the level you desire it. Seek to enjoy what God is allowing you to have while obeying God in the responsibilities He has given you. Accept His sufficiency above your preoccupation with protecting yourself and providing for yourself.

Principle # 2: View God According to His Character and Not According to Your Past (Genesis 50: 15-20)
Your view of God shapes your decisions concerning every problem you encounter. If you truly embrace the facts that God is in control, He knows the best course of action to bring about His glory and your greatest good, and God always has your best interest at heart, it could change your perspective of the past.

Principle # 3: Confess Present Sin from Past Experiences (Proverbs 28:13-14)
You must identify your present ungodly actions, which have developed from the past experience, and turn away from them. Look at the way you act around people as a result of your past experience. Are you unloving or unkind? Confess, repent, and replace those actions with kindness, and politeness. Freedom comes as we deal with the sin properly instead of rationalizing and justifying ourselves. We must fess up where we messed up, let go, and move on!
This step may be hard to swallow since you are the one who feels like the victim.   Unfortunately it is not unusual for someone who has been hurt to hurt someone else.  You may put unreasonable demands on a relationship because of wounds from the past.  You may have even copied the behavior that so adversely affected you.

Principle # 4: Pursue the Future Prize in Christ (Colossians 3:1-4 and Philippians 3:13-14)
You must set your mind on things above instead of things below. If you don’t do this, you will find yourself disobedient and unloving in the present towards God and others because of past experiences. You must set your mind on things above instead of things below (Colossians 3:1-4). If you don’t do this, you will find yourself disobedient and unloving in the present towards God and others because of past experiences. You must enjoy what God has provided now without being consumed with what you believed you lacked in the past.

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