Friday, 28 September 2012

Bad Apple

Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
1 Corinthians 15:33

Occasionally I receive a blog from Dennis Rainey of Family Life.  Sometimes the topic has to do with parenting and sometimes marriage.  The following is an excerpt of a recent blog which addressed the need for parents to monitor with whom their children are hanging out.  However, the general concept applies to marriage as well.

One of my favorite object lessons in the sixth-grade Sunday School class I taught for many years was the “bad apples” demonstration. During a class at the beginning of the year, I brought some apples with me into the room—a beautiful, shiny red one that I called a “good apple” and a couple of others that looked nice but had at least one bruise.

Most of us have been exposed to this visual aid.  The apples are put together in a bag and after a week or two all the apples are bad. 

A recent study indicated that those couples who hung around with couples who were divorcing were more likely to divorce.  But the analogy can be carried even further.  It may be just as dangerous to hang around people who complain about their spouse OR who commiserate with you as you complain about your spouse.  These people are not helping you, though experiencing an empathetic voice may seem comforting.

Even more serious is for members of the opposite sex to commiserate about the deficiencies of their spouse or their marital struggles.  This is an affair looking to happen.

So the bottom line question is “Are you a bad apple or just hanging around with some?”

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