Monday, 25 June 2012

Boundaries for Technology

I recently saw a posting written by Dave Boehi having to do with setting boundaries for mobile devices and I want to share with you  some of the household rules that he and his family have established.

Dave suggests that technology is changing the way we relate to one another.  I would like to suggest that technology is keeping us from relating to one another.  I see couples in a restaurant or young people walking down the street together, each with their smart phone out, texting someone who is not present.  I particularly enjoy getting rammed by a shopping cart by the person behind me who is preoccupied with their phone conversation.

I subscribe that nothing has taken a greater hit by our advancements in technology than our marriages and families.  It is a reasonably well accepted fact that most husbands and wives spend little time talking each week about anything other than the administrative matters pertaining to running the house or handling the children. And since the advent of texting most parents haven’t seen their children’s eyes for months.

Here are Dave’s rules:

1.    No devices at the dinner table.(including having the television on)

2.    No phones at a restaurant.

3.    No texting someone when you’re both at home.

4.    No texting or talking about really important issues over the phone.

5.    Regulate use of devices on vacation.
Some additional thoughts from Dave’s posting:

1.    Anything that becomes a necessity has the ability to become an idol.

2.    If you can’t live without a gadget – throw it away.  If a gadget is absorbing most of your leisure time – throw it away.

3.    When you are with someone that relationship needs to be your priority.

Some experts in the field of communication have quoted the 55/38/7 “rule” that states, “research has shown that people derive only about 7% of the meaning of a communication from the words themselves which the speaker uses (verbalized emotion), about 38% is based on tone of voice, and a whopping 55% from the speaker’s body language.”

If this is even half true we need to take back our relations from those devices that have taken them captive.

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