Wednesday, 2 May 2012

When Srtorms Descend - Part II

As mentioned on my previous blog I am sharing my reflections on a chapter from Love & War co-authored by John and Stasi Eldredge.

          Sometimes the craziness in our marriage comes from deep brokenness in us or in our spouse.  But we’re so embarrassed by it we try to hide it as long as we can.  So God uses troubles to flush us out of hiding.

Deep brokenness is always a problem at the heart level.  Not to over simplify the complexity that is involved in my diagnosis but ultimately anger, addictive behaviors, thoughtlessness, etc. are manifestations of making someone or something more important than God.

I’m angry because I’m afraid.  I’m afraid because I am insecure, or I’m afraid my spouse will leave me, or I’m afraid we are in serious financial trouble caused by making poor choices, etc.  In each case the assumption is that what I am afraid of is bigger than God.  My fear has convinced me that there is no way out of this hopeless mess.

God has either brought this mess upon you or at the very least allowed this mess in an effort to get your attention.  He wants you to learn something about Him, about your life and about your relationship with Him.  Romans 8:28 takes on new meaning when you come to the realization that when Scripture says “And we know that in all things God works for the good…” it means exactly what it says.

“But,” you say “you don’t know what we as a couple are going through.”  I would say you are right.  Then I would ask the question that a friend of mine asks “How big is your God?” and before you have a chance to answer he responds, “He’s bigger than that.”  If the God who sustains our life moment by moment, the one who created the universe and parted the Red Sea, doesn’t have the power to help you with your problems then as the apostle Paul said, “If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are of all people most to be pitied.”  1 Corinthians 15:18-20   Basically, if God is not who He claims to be in Scripture we Christians are a sorry bunch of  losers, because we have been manipulated, deceived, duped and conned.

Here’s the bottom line.  Like gold is purified through heat, God uses difficult circumstances, tough situations, and disagreeable people as a demonstration of his love, to purify us, to make us more like His Son.  1Peter 5:7 says that we are to cast our anxieties on Him because He cares for us.  He wants to be your rock, your refuge and your comfort. 

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