Friday, 18 May 2012

Unhappy - Try God's Plan

A traditional wedding vow might include the following phrases, “…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward until death us do part.  This I promise to you before God”.

It is reported that the average bride to be in the U.S. spends well over 1000 hours choreographing each moment of the day she will say the vows and her parents may have spent upwards of $30,000 – give or take $20k.

At some point in time, in over half of all U.S. marriages, one or both partners in the marriage find themselves unhappy.

The obvious answer is to chuck it all, split up the assets, pay the attorneys umpteen thousands of dollars and hope to find someone else who will make you happy – at least that is what the world would have you believe.

God has a somewhat different plan.  Husbands are to love their wives as much as they love themselves (Eph. 5:33). That alone should fix any unhappiness from the wife’s perspective.  That means my wife should come before Monday night football, my job, my children or anything else that I may deem incredibly important.

Wives are to help and respect her husband.  Respect is defined as notice him, regard him, honor him, prefer him, venerates, and esteems him; and [b]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly.  Now what guy in his right mind is going to be unhappy given this support?

 That’s it, that’s God’s plan - love and respect.

Why doesn’t God tell women to love their husbands?  Why would God single out respect as the most important way for a wife to express her affirmation of her husband?  First of all most women don’t need to be instructed to be loving and nurturing, for most it comes naturally.  You may notice that God never commands us to do anything that comes easily.  God also knows that men thrive on respect AND it is difficult for most women to respect their husbands unconditionally.

Why does God tell husbands to love their wives as much as they love their own bodies?  The answer follows much of the reason stated for wives respecting their husbands.  The husbands are to follow the pattern of Christ, His love for His bride the Church.  God knows that women need to feel loved and cherished, He also knows that this does not come easily for men.

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