Monday, 23 April 2012

A Cord of Three Strands

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Gen. 2:24

There are many people in our culture in the US who would have their own “Amplified Version” of this Genesis verse. It would read something like “For this reason a man, who would still like to act like a boy and play with his video games and watch sports as often as he’d like, shall consider leaving the comfort of his parents home, and be united to his wife, who would prefer to spend her time at the mall, and they will become one flesh when it is convenient, with the exception of separate checking accounts, separate vacations with friends, and separate friends.”  These couples will struggle because this is not what God had in mind when Moses penned Genesis, most likely these individuals will remain self-centered.

Perhaps a healthier verse to camp out on would be found in Ecclesiastes 4:9,12 which states, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work..Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Here the emphasis is that two are better than one (whether they can live as cheaply as one is debatable). Such a couple is hard to defeat and almost impossible to defeat when God, the third strand, is at the core of their marriage.  These couples have shared values.  Often they have drafted a vision for their marriage and a mission statement.  These statements are subject to change as God brings new challenges and opportunities into the couple’s lives.  Most likely these couples will have a marriage that glorifies God and will be other centered. 

Here’s the good news.  Regardless of how your marriage may have started out, or where you may be along the continuum it is not too late to adopt a marriage that has God at the center.  It is not too late to draft a mission statement and a vision statement for your marriage.

If you have children it would be great to have a family meeting at which you reviewed with the entire family your vision for your marriage and your family as well as a mission statement.  This would be an invaluable teachable moment, a chance to tell your children what you think is important and how they fit into the picture.  How fantastic would it be if they started out their marriages by penning such documents?

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