Friday, 27 April 2012

A Business Model and Marriage - What do They Have in Common

I have recently given some thought to the idea that instead of vows which few couples seem to be taking seriously that perhaps we would be better to have the pre-married couples write a mission statement, a vision statement and a values statement.

      I.                  A mission statement is a statement of the purpose of a company, organization or marriage.  The mission statement should guide the actions of the marriage, spell out its overall goal, provide a path, and guide decision-making.  Pick “A” or “B”.

A.    To complete us, to experience self-actualization, to enable us to reach our maximum potential and to achieve maximum happiness.

B.    To glorify God.

    II.                  A Vision statement outlines what the organization or marriage wants to be, or how it wants the world in which it operates to view it long-term. It concentrates on the future. Pick “A” or “B”.

A.    We want a marriage that will be admired by all of our friends.  We want to exemplify what a truly fulfilled couple looks like, for as long as possible.

B.    We want to bring praise, honor and glory to God by the way we conduct ourselves in all aspects of our lives.

  III.                  Values are beliefs that are shared among the stakeholders i.e. the couple. Values drive the culture and priorities of and provide a framework in which decisions are made.  Pick “A” or “B”.

A.      We believe that truth is relative.  We believe in capitalism with a social conscience. We value a good education and a strong work ethic.  We believe that man is basically good.

B.    We believe in a marriage and a family (if possible) in which God is at the center.  We believe Scripture is the inerrant Word of God and it provides the guidelines by which we will live our lives.  We believe that all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God but that God demonstrated His own love for us in this, while we were still sinners Christ died for us.

So what do you think?  Is it better to pledge before God, the pastor and your friends that you will remain committed to one another in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer and then bail when it is not working out?  Or would it be better to be honest and just acknowledge that you are in this relationship for as long as it meets your desires, expectations and wishes?

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