Monday, 30 January 2012

Four Ways to Improve Your Marriage

Focus on the Family has long been an advocate for strong marriages and families. In the following blog post they share thoughts on how to integrate your spiritual lives into your marriage. It is not unusual for couples to be uneasy in this area of their relationship. Often it is because one of the partners, usually the wife, “appears to be” more spiritual, i.e. more conversant with the Bible and prayer. This makes it even more challenging since (a) men are to be the spiritual leaders in the home and (b) most men do not like to do something they are not good at, even if they have a desire to take such a lead.

Starting slow and seeking out an older couple who is more mature in their combined walk with the Lord is excellent advice. Here is the posting in its entirety.

If you and your spouse find yourselves struggling to give your faith a more central role in your marriage, consider the following suggestions:
1. Start with yourself. A joint prayer and devotional life for a married couple works best when it's a natural outgrowth of each partner's personal time with God. If you haven't been praying and reading the Bible much yourself, begin doing so before moving any further.

2. Don't rush it. If you're the more interested spouse, be patient. Praying together, like any family tradition you establish, must emerge from what both partners agree to and feel at ease with.

3. Start small. Give yourselves time, and don't push it. You might begin by praying at mealtimes. Eventually, you'll feel comfortable going beyond the blessing of your food to remembering the needs of friends and family members.

4. Use the resources available. Do you know an older couple who might be able to serve as mentors or role models in this area? If so, ask them if they'd be willing to help you out. Devotional books, pamphlets and magazines can also provide structure for your prayer and study times.

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