Thursday, 1 December 2011

If It Ain't Broke Don't Fix It

That expression may be sage advice when it comes to plumbing or electrical work but when it comes to the human condition and marriage in particular, we are all broken. In his newly released book Forever Paul Tripp reminds us:

Most if not all relationships will go through times of difficulty and stress. A good relationship, then, is a humble and needy relationship in which both parties admit that they haven’t arrived and are not perfect. They are approachable, willing to listen to the concerns of the other, willing to admit and face their shortcomings. They do not give way to thinking that they are mature and the other person is not. A good relationship doesn’t get stuck in a cycle of expectation, disappointment, criticism, and punishment. It doesn’t give way to the hopelessness that often grips relationships when change doesn’t seem to be happening. A good relationship is good because each person is patient and understanding. Each seeks to encourage the other to grow while resisting laying unrealistic burdens on the shoulders of the other person.
I often use the expression “God glorifying” marriage. I think the above paragraph describes many of the elements in such a marriage. It acknowledges up front that both the husband and wife are sinners. It is through grace that we grow to be more like the Son and often the Lord will use the spouse in that process. It is particularly gratifying when it is a collaborative effort with each partner accepting and soliciting the help of the other.

Paul Tripp
First Corinthians 10:31 tells us, “whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Hence marriage is to glorify God, it is to reflect the relationship that Christ has with His bride the church.

Romans 8:29 tells us that “those that God foreknew He also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of His Son, that He might be the first born among many brothers.” This tells us that it is God’s plan that we continue to grow in our Christlikeness.

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