Monday, 29 August 2011

Marriage and ADHD

The Diagnostic Manual for Mental Disorders estimates that 3 to 7% of school age children suffer with ADHD (Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ADD (Attention-Deficit Disorder). Yet, it seems as though each year a greater number of children and adults are diagnosed with this malady.

The Manual lists nine symptoms of inattention and nine symptoms of hyperactivity and impulsivity. To qualify for this diagnosis a patient must have at least six of the symptoms that have persisted for six months or more.

If your spouse has ADD or ADHD they will need grace, understanding, compassion and help. Medication can help. They may need help to develop coping strategies such as learning to ask for help in organizing things, getting help when filling out forms that require accuracy, breaking tasks into smaller chunks, asking for help to find things, etc. Even if the person truly suffers from one of these disorders it must not become the person’s identity and provide an excuse for whatever they feel like doing or not doing.

The person who thinks they have this malady should seek a doctor who has experience dealing with this disorder. If confirmed it will require patience on the part of the family and the person so afflicted. Such a condition will without a doubt put a strain of sorts on the individual’s relationships. They must be careful not to “hide behind” the diagnosis and be willing to understand the frustration their behavior may cause others.

Most likely there is much information on the Internet and ample books on the subject. Whether you are the one who suffers from the disorder or you are the caregiver it will be most helpful for you to get as much information as you can.

In 2 Corinthians chapter 12, the Apostle Paul states,” there was given to me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” God does not waste pain, look for ways that he may be using this disorder to draw you closer to Himself, or enabling you to be a better witness for the Kingdom.

Finally as best you can maintain a sense of humor.

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