Wednesday, 15 June 2011

Online Infidelity

Who would have ever thought that the computer would become the biggest threat to the stability of marriage? Currently the Internet and other forms of social networking (i.e. FaceBook, etc.) are the fastest growing threat to marriages.

In her blog www.strongmarriagesnow.com Dr. Dana Fillmore cited a few more troubling thoughts. Intimate relationships on line have now replaced the workplace as the leading venue for starting an affair. It has been reported that 30% of divorces can be linked to relationships that began online. The secrecy and excitement surrounding a cyber relationship can become an addiction.

It has been said that Billy Graham would not even get on an elevator if it was solely occupied by a woman. It has always been prudent for married people to avoid being particularly friendly with someone of the opposite sex. At least up until now the threat of
being caught by one’s spouse or acquaintance in what appeared to be an inappropriate situation prevented some people from following their instincts. Cyber hook ups can be done more clandestinely and they eliminate many of the inhibitions, allowing people to say things that develop a false sense of intimacy very quickly.

Internet dalliances are absolutely a form of infidelity. If your spouse is spending an inordinate amount of time on his/her computer at least be a little suspicious. Couples should always try to go to bed at the same time. Filters such as “SafeEyes” and “Covenant Eyes” are two Christian internet filters that families should put on their machines, particularly if they have children.

As if computers aren’t bad enough, smart phones add to the proliferation of pornographic material and inappropriate liaisons. Again filters should be applied if available and husbands and wives should make their phone records available to one another.

Since online actions are lasting and traceable the trail is there to be found.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:22-24

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