Wednesday, 2 February 2011

A Valuable Lesson - Self Taught

Lysa Terkeurst author of Made to Crave and other outstanding Christian books dealing with practical life issues shared the following excerpt in her blog:


"I’ve wasted many a lunch together feeling grumpy over the dumbest things. Then a few years ago, I got tired of being that wife. So, I stopped asking God to fix my husband and decided to ask God to fix me.


That was hard. Stinkin’ hard. And it was a process. Quite the process.


I would read 1 Corinthians 13 and feel frustrated that my marriage was not giving all those qualities of love to me. Why wasn’t our love patient, kind, protecting, and full of hope?


As I read those Scriptures over and over, slowly, I started realizing I had to choose to make our love those things. That kind of love is an active decision- not a feeling. I would have to actively decide to be patient- to be kind- to be protecting- to be full of hope.

Thankfully, my marriage survived my years of grumpiness."

Haven’t we all wasted some valuable time with those we love because we were in a foul mood or because our feelings were hurt or we were nursing a grudge? Bravo Lysa. First for her willingness to be transparent and secondly for sharing what is one of the most valuable insights that each of us will ever get.

She didn’t come to the conclusion that her husband was to blame for the way things were. She came to the conclusion that she needed to choose to live out 1Corinthians 13. She had to choose to make love a verb. She had to actively decide to behave in a different way.

We might influence our spouse to change but the reality is that we can only change ourselves. There is no guarantee that if we earnestly seek the Lord, to truly attempt to be a 1Corinthians 13 Christian with the help of the Holy Spirit that our marriage will turn out like Lysa’s but it certainly seems like a good place to start. Love is patient… I’m in trouble already.



No comments:

Post a Comment

Post a comment