Thursday, 4 November 2010

Romance versus Love

The following excerpt appeared in a Joni and Friends morning devotional:

"This is the message you heard from the beginning: We should love one another."
- 1 John 3:11

The romance has gone out of my marriage. Instead, there is love. Romance used to say, "I'll do absolutely anything for you," but love goes a step further and says, "Yes, and I'll prove it."

Romance is fleeting, but love is long.
Romance is flying, but love is a safe landing.
Romance seeks perfection, but love forgives faults.
Romance anguishes as it waits for the phone to ring to bring a voice that says sweet things, but love is the anguish of waiting for a call that assures you someone else is safe and happy.
Romance is suspense, anticipation and surprise, but love is dependability.
Romance is dancing in the moonlight, gazing deep into desired eyes, but love is saying, "You're tired, honey, I'll get up this time."
Romance is delicious, but love nourishes.

I truly believe this is one of those times when, as the expression goes, “you can have your cake and eat it to” (whatever that means). I think Anonymous has given us a beautiful picture of what it means to love another person. Love must be a verb and love must be other centered. That said, romance can remain a vital part of the relationship. In fact, I believe the more in love a couple is the better making love will become. Intimacy implies vulnerability, and the more trusting the relationship the more vulnerable one can become. When I can put my wife’s needs ahead of my needs and she can put my needs ahead of hers, magical things can happen.

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