Tuesday, 28 September 2010

I Want Someone Who Will Complete Me

If you are one of those people who got married in an effort to be completed – ding, ding, ding – it’s not going to happen. To paraphrase a line from the movie “Cool Runnings”, if you are not complete without marriage, you’ll never be complete with it.

In all honesty it depends on how you define “completes me”. For God recognized in the Garden that Adam needed a helper, someone of his own species to do life with. Not only was it not good for man to be alone but they were created male and female in the image of God. Thus it says to me that neither man nor woman alone is capable of reflecting the nature, character and qualities of God, but combined we come closer.

If your definition of “completes me” is more along the lines of “I have been unhappy with who I am. I have a void in my life that I have not been able to fill” then you don’t need a husband or wife but a Christian counselor.

We are only completed in Jesus Christ and Him crucified. We feel most complete when we are using the spiritual gifts, the talents and abilities that God has given us in the service of others. We feel most complete when we are in His presence, be it in prayer, worship or in His Word. It would stand to reason that we would feel most complete when we adhere to the Great Commandment, i.e. “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind…Love your neighbor as yourself.”

Isn’t it interesting that we are most likely to feel complete when we put God and others first. “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to offer his life…” When we stop navel gazing we feel complete. When we help others, we feel complete. When we truly worship and give thanks to the all mighty, magnificent God, we feel complete.

To the extent that you can put your husband/wife’s deal ahead of your deal, that you can “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit but consider others better than yourself” (Phil 2:3) to that extent you will find completeness in marriage.

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