Friday, 25 June 2010

It's All About Me

In a recent sermon our pastor talked about how self-centered we are as babies. We come into the world thinking that we are the center of the universe. “Feed me, change me, hold me, make me laugh, tell me how cute I am…” And most of us had parents who obliged us. In fact many of us spent much of our childhood manipulating our parents into some version of “take care of me, I’m special”, or at the very least wanted to be treated as though we were that important.

Then we meet that “perfect” person who in some way promises, in actuality or in fantasy, to meet our needs or expectations. Notice it is still all about me. What we forget is that the other person started life the same way we did. “Hey look at me; I’m the center of the universe.”

What do you get when you combine two people who think they are the center of the universe? Answer – a recipe for disaster, a very unhappy marriage. We are trying to occupy a position that rightfully belongs to God. He is the center of the universe and ideally is at the center of our marriage.

When God is at the center of our marriage we try to apply His principles. The husband does everything in his power to love his wife in a way that (a) she wants to be loved and/or (b) the way that God would have him love her. The wife would respect her husband in the way that (a) he would feel most affirmed and/or (b) God would have her affirm him. Furthermore the husband would provide for, protect and lead his wife. The husband and wife would submit to one another as called for in Ephesians 5:21 - so much for being the center of the universe.

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