Wednesday, 2 June 2010

Is Your Marriage Warning Light On?

Dr. Bob Snyder writes a great blog entitled “Lessons Learned on the Journey” where he shares thoughts about life as viewed through a Christian filter ( ). In a recent posting “Faith Maintenance” , he questioned whether or not he was taking as much care of his faith as his car’s service manual suggested he take of his car. His entry got me thinking, which is often a painful experience, do we take better care of our cars than we do our marriages?

A car comes with a maintenance manual and often there is a warning light on the dashboard that tells you when it is time to have a particular service performed. More specifically the manual is for the make and model of the car you are driving, written and published by the manufacturer of that vehicle. They know what is best to keep your car in top notch running condition.

Christians have been blessed with a marriage maintenance manual -the Bible. It was written by the One who designed and created the institution of marriage. He knows what is absolutely best for each married couple. We too are given a warning light, i.e. our marriage is not experiencing the joy that God intended, or our love for one another does not manifest itself in a way that glorifies the Creator. To put it in secular terms – “you’ve lost that lov’in feeling.” (Love is not a feeling by the way but that is material for another blog.)

Ignoring your marriage warning light will be more hazardous to your emotional and physical well being than if you ignored the emergency warning light on your car.

Now you can turn to Dr. Phil, read a marriage advice column, buy one of the 10, 293 books on marriage published last year, or read what has been written by the inventor of marriage, the One for whom marriage was designed. If you want the “Cliff Notes” version just read in the Book of Ephesians, chapter 5, verses 21-33. This will tell you what you need to do to keep your marriage running in top notch condition.  

Some people are capable of changing their own oil, rotating their own tires and doing other routine maintenance. Others of us need to go to a mechanic just to have our tires inflated. If you are in the former category you might find that reading a Christian book on marriage or watching a DVD together will suffice. If you are in the latter category you may need to seek a Christian marriage counselor.

In either case the focus must be on what you need to do to be the husband/wife that God has called you to be, not on what your spouse needs to change.

How about it, are you taking better care of your car than your marriage?

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